“The Next Step”. Such a strange phrase. I’ve been around overly “religious” individuals who constantly think God is telling them to take some inconvenient next step. And I’ve been around other individuals who take every day as it comes, and find themselves able to relax and have peace through life.
I go neither way. I believe that things happen for a reason and that God is heavily involved in my life every day. At the same time, I can’t simply relax through life… unless I’m on vacation. I’ve got to be moving. I’ve got to be accomplishing. I’ve got to be gaining ground… otherwise, I lose it, and get in this depressive, pissed-off state.
This is probably the explanation why, though I sing full-time in Blackwood Legacy and make my living doing so, I’m constantly desperate for a side project. I’m constantly seeking to be working on more that what I’m working on.
I’ve tried many different side projects this passed year. I tried starting a band with my brother (didn’t work out). I tried starting a side Gospel trio (didn’t work out). I tried launching myself as a solo Gospel artist (didn’t work out). But lately, I’ve been working on something else. Following my own instincts, and doing exactly what I want to do…
I’m making a record. A new record. My last album, “Wisdom For Fools” (which is available for download or purchase on this site) was an album of all original songs, mixing the genres of Christian and Alternative music. It was a great album. But what I’m working on now is even better.
This record is even better. All original songs, and me playing most of the instruments. But it is a different genre. I have gone secular Pop.
Go on, fire your bullets. Get your archery game on and send those arrows into my chest. While you’re at it, get a lasso rope and hang me from town square. Ohhh no. OHHHH NO. The Gospel artist is making a secular album. Frankly, I just don’t care.
As a Christian, I live my life for the cause of Jesus Christ… do I do a perfect job at that? - Absolutely not. Do I mess up on a daily basis? - you bet. That said, I don’t have to make Christian music to be a Christian. And releasing an album that appeals to a larger audience, in my opinion, will only give me a larger platform to share my beliefs and my thoughts with the world.
This album, tentatively titled “A Place To Land”, is an album about my most personal issues. It will discuss living life in relationship to God. It will discuss broken-hearted pain from being thrown out by a loved one. It will discuss feelings of loneliness. Ultimately, it will be, a culmination of me.
You will love this CD! I am half-way through with recording it. Gotta get another five or six songs down. And I hope to release this album globally this Spring or Summer, available to be downloaded on the internet, for anyone.
Keep watching for updates. And in the meantime, check out my album “Wisdom For Fools” in the DC store. I’m still proud of that project.
May God bless you all, and may He continue to guide us as we live our lives, trying to figure out how to be the best we can be. Let’s make 2012 a year to remember!! Culminate yourself!!
Well, I have news but I can’t tell you what it is. So, I’ll tell you some things I can tell you.
1. I am working on a new Progressive Rock album of original songs. Title is not yet decided.
2. I’m only home for five days right now, which is incredibly lame because I’m sick of travel and love being home
3. I’m feeling as enthusiastic and excited about life as ever
4. I’m a little tired but none the less, never get to sleep early enough
5. I can’t find a girlfriend
6. This Tumblr blog is now also my official website (danielchilds.com)
7. Okay, I guess I’m pretty tired. Not sleepy though.
8. I’m making the most of every day and every night while I’m at home. I treasure this time.
In the meantime, let’s live life, and do our best to enjoy every moment. I’m learning so much right now about trust in God, and believing in myself. Those are two things I will carry with me wherever I go, and in my opinion, are a recipe for personal and career success.
Anyway, more news coming from me soon. Whenever I finally have complete control over my public life.
Just wanted to post something encouraging tonight. I know most of the things I have posted lately have been a little bit on the negative side. I simply have had a tough and confusing month.
As a Christian entertainer, I’m expected to lift people up, and I strive to do so every night on stage. In Blackwood Legacy, we work hard to be a blessing. But in my off-stage time, I fight the endless battle of longing to express myself in some way that somehow, somewhere out there will hear/read what I said and say “I know exactly how he feels! I’ve been there! Wow, I’m not alone!”.
I guess that’s why I write songs and blog. It’s because there’s stuff on the inside that just absolutely has to come out.
I posted this song because I love the way Bryan Hutson (one of my biggest influences / friend) sings it. But tonight, this song has taken on a new meaning for me; because in the midst of feeling a little bit of panic, thrown in with a dosage of uncertainty and lack of confidence… it’s a powerful realization to suddenly know that what this song talks about will one day be our reality, if we believe in and accept Jesus Christ.
I’ve got as many faults as anyone else on earth. I’m absolutely terrible at managing my financial budget. I’m horrible at attracting females. I wear my heart on my sleeve, so I always get crushed. I have a terrible diet. I rarely apply discipline to my life. And these faults sometimes get me quite worried. But tonight I realized, though it’s important to try to fix these things… in the grand scheme of true reality, is it worth all the worrying?
- No. It’s not. Because one day my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, who has never abandoned me in spite of my faults, in His love and kindness, will rise me up from my grave into peaceful eternity with Him. Why? - Not because of anything I’ve done… I have already failed. It’s because of what He has done. It’s because He loves me. It is because He is good, and mighty to save. I’m finally understanding what that means.
So, as you read these lyrics, be mindful that this will one day be your reality, too, if you love and accept Him. And if you’ve never accepted His gift of salvation, you don’t have to end tonight in that same condition. You simply tell Him that you repent of your sins (asking His forgiveness), that you’re turning to Him, you believe that He shed His blood for you, you believe that God rose him from the grave, you accept Him, and you ask Him to come into your heart, your life, and save you.
I Will Rise Up From My Grave
Written by Jack Toney
When my last day has ended, here on earth
And my body is lowered in the dirt
I’ll have no fear; though death now has me bound
For I will rise up from my grave to meet the Lamb
Father, mother
Sister, brother, I will see
They’ll be coming, for they’ve won the victory
And now at last, sweet peace we’ll have finally found
For we have risen from the grave to meet the Lamb
I will rise up to meet Him in the sky
On that homecoming morning, by and by
When the trumpet of God begins to sound
I will rise up from my grave to meet the Lamb
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I hate so much about some of the things I choose to be. I want to start living right and turn everything around. But at the same time, I know that I will never be perfect. So whether I rise or fall… whether I mess up or finally do something right… I have Him to rely on. He never wavers, even though I waver constantly.
God bless,
Daniel
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I recorded this song on my recent solo album, “Blessed Assurance”, which is available at www.danielchilds.com.
I don’t have many ways of expressing myself in life. Never have. There are only so many people who will hear you out face to face about your problems and not judge you. So, what are my options? I have two. This blog, and music.
Music is something that I have related to since high school. Somewhere along the way, in my late teens, I realized that songwriters like Matt Scannell of Vertical Horizon were writing my very emotions in their songs. And I realized that artists like Jeff Deyo could express my feelings for God in their Worship songs. And it became clear to me that music is a powerful way of expressing your feelings, so my feelings started coming out in the songs I write, both Christian and secular.
Not only do I pore my emotions into the songs I write, but I often find my emotions in songs written by other people, like “Bridge Over Troubled Water” by Simon and Garfunkle. My version can be heard in the video above, which is mostly reminiscent of Elvis Presley’s version, mixed with my own singing and piano playing style, at a very vulnerable time of night.
Every songwriter knows that people may take many different meanings from their songs. And I’m not completely sure what the writers of this song were trying to express in its conception, but this is what it means to me…
It seems to be almost every human being’s desire to find mutual love with a significant other human being of the opposite sex. At least, I know that it’s a major desire of mine. I even had a girlfriend for a few years… but strangely enough, after three years of love and commitment, she drifted from me and broke up with me in a text message like a cowardess.
I hold nothing against her, though. That is the thing. That is what “Bridge Over Troubled Water” is about to me. It is about denying yourself, and serving other people no matter what… no matter what they have done to you, no matter how bad they have hurt you… I feel we as Christians and as human beings are called to deny ourselves and forgive others… and for me, that also means being available to help them through anything.
Since the time that she broke up with me, which was almost three years ago, my luck with women has been extremely poor. I’ve been on dates with several. Had a couple one-week relationships. Gotten my hopes up many times only to have my feelings destroyed. And though I’ve been in a constant pursuit of love, unafraid to tell a female how I feel about her… my luck is always turned in-side-out. The one I fall for never feels the same. And the one who does feel the same either turns out to already be taken, or turns out to be someone I’m not compatible with.
It’s quite sad. I’ll often get my hopes up that it will work out with a certain girl, and then I’ll get let down. It’s a seemingly never-ending occurrence. This summer, I drove eight hours to spend three days with someone I thought it would work out with. It didn’t. Last month, I flew a thousand miles to see someone I was sure it would work out with. And she turned out to be the opposite of what I thought she was. I’ve been on a million dates, given a million gifts, and have been completely selfless in my romantic attempts… all for what? … all for nothing. My affection is never returned. My gifts are taken for granted. And my selflessness is looked at as weakness, and I, therefore, am walked-all-over.
But in spite of all this, I can’t find it in myself to do wrong to any of these girls whom it hasn’t worked out with. I can’t find it in myself to be as unkind to them as they’ve been to me. It’s not in my programming to treat a woman wrong.
In fact, I feel inclined to be more than a forgiver to them. Through my anger and disappointment, I still feel indebted as a servant. If any person in the world called me at three in the morning and needed my help, I would help them however I could… no matter who they are, no matter how they’ve wronged me, no matter what our history is. It doesn’t even matter if I like the person or not. When someone is in need, I believe that spirit of Christ kicks in to make us merciful.
So like a bridge over troubled water, I will lay me down. And I’ll do whatever I can do to ease your mind. Though some people are hard to forgive, I will try my very best to forgive them. Though some people are hard to serve, I’ll do what I can. And though most girls I’ve met couldn’t care less if I live or die, I will keep holding out hope that maybe I’ll find ONE who really does love me.
That’s what this song means to me. And if you relate, feel free to share this blog entry or this video.
May God bless you, whoever you are. Whatever our history is, I refuse to hold a grudge against you. It may be hard, but I refuse to let anything keep us from being the siblings in Christ we have to be.
And also, very important… if there is any girl out there, of appropriate age who thinks she could be the one for me… please present yourself. I don’t want to be alone anymore. Man is not meant to be alone. It’s a fact of nature. And I’m 25, not getting any younger, and am ready to devote myself.
I have something to say but I’m not even sure what it is. I’ve spent the last three nights tossing and turning and having nightmares. Tonight I’m so put out with bed sleep that I am kicking back in a chair in our hotel room, wrapped up in a blanket about to watch some netflix.
I wonder what sleep is. And I wonder why I dread it. I always have a slight trepidation in the back of my mind about getting in the room at night and trying to occupy myself until my body finally gives in and shuts down. But lately, my mind hasn’t been shutting down with it. I just want a break. I just want some real rest.
We’re in eastern Texas. Currently staying in Franklin. It’s good to be in this part of the country, but it’s equally as boring as any other part of the country. If you want food after nine on a Friday night in this town, I hope you enjoy your sub sandwich from Subway.
Anyway, I promise that next time I blog I’ll actually have something worth blogging about. There are some great new things in the works but none of it is public knowledge yet.
I just needed to talk tonight because I have no one to talk to and feel rather alone. As I sit here in a quiet room, in a quiet hallway of a quiet hotel in a quiet town in a quiet county, I simply wonder if there’s life out there anywhere. If anyone anywhere is doing anything worth doing. If maybe there is somewhere else to be right now where people aren’t afraid and no one feels alone.
Who knows.
May God bless you all… I appreciate my friends so much. What would I do without you??
I write music for the confused. For the ones who struggle to fit in with this twisted society. I write music for the people who know they’re not perfect, and for the people who wrestle with life as they lay in bed at night wishing they could sleep. I write music for the seekers of God, for the sufferers, and for the guy who can never get the girl he loves to look his way. I write music for the tired, the frightened, the brave, the failures, the rejected, and the sarcastic citizens of the world.
How is it that my music is geared toward these types of people? It’s simple… it’s because this describes me. I write songs to express myself, and to talk about things that I can’t actually talk about. Every song I write has a window to some aspect of my mind or heart within it, and is an expression of the things I believe and feel.
In 2010, I recorded an independent album called “Wisdom for Fools”, with the intent of releasing it. However, I didn’t release it, because without warning, a five-month diversion of my course interrupted my life as I made an eventually regretted move to Florida to take a job that I was not suited for.
I now have good news, though! As a gesture toward getting everyone excited about new music projects I am working on, I have released “Wisdom For Fools” for download on my website at www.danielchilds.com!
This is a Pop album, and I believe it to be a very good one. The songs are written thoughtfully, and cover a vast variety of subject matter from my heart.
Though I classify this music as “Pop”, this album does, however, fit within the genre of Christian music as well because many of the songs have Christian lyrics and meanings.
Most of “Wisdom For Fools” was recorded at my house in Franklin, and some of it was recorded at the church I worked at in Florida. The guitars on the album were played by myself as well as Cameron Childs. I played bass and keyboards, as well as did all the vocals.
So, I write this blog entry to pursued you to go to danielchilds.com today and download “Wisdom For Fools” in the online store! I believe this album will bless you, that the songs will encourage you, and that it’s fun to listen to.
Also in the online store, you can buy “Wisdom for Fools” t-shirts and hoodies.
Above: music video for “Until You Do”, a song from the “Wisdom For Fools” album.
As for future music projects:
I’m already working on two other albums, which is why I strategically released “Wisdom for Fools” at this time in order to get everyone excited about the new music I’m working on, which is sounding even better!
One of the new projects I’m working on is a Christian project called “Carry Me”, and I’m almost finished recording it. It is sounding better than anything I’ve ever worked on before, and I’m excited about releasing it and selling it at concerts.
I am also in early writing stages for a brand new completely Pop album. I consider myself more of an Alternative / Pop artist at heart, because when writing Christian music, you have to write within certain perimeters. With me, there’s simply more to the story. I have more words about life to share. And when writing Pop music, I am free to write about whatever I want, including Christian meanings. And am free to sound however I want.
So, be on the lookout for these future projects!
I want you all to know that I appreciate you, your friendship, and your support of my music. I encourage you to download “Wisdom For Fools” today and enjoy it!
May God bless you and keep you in His divine care!
Here I go, talking about relationships again. But please note that everything I say in reference to relationships is well thought-out over mass amounts of time and tested to hold weight as truth.
Observe the above clip of “Date Mike”, portrayed by Office character Michael Scott, portrayed by actor Steve Carell. Girls, would you want to go out with a baffoon like this? Answer: of course not.
If you’re not an Office fan, this blog entry will not be something you 100% understand, but you’ll still get what I’m trying to say.
On NBC’s show The Office, there are a range of characters. However, I want to only talk about two of them and I want to talk specifically about their approach to relationships with females, and which one I have discovered works. This synopsis is based on my own personal observations and experiences. Even if you don’t watch the show, this will make sense.
Michael Scott
While being an absolutely hilarious character (mainly due to his oblivious lack of understanding of the world), Michael has trouble with women. Over the course of his seven seasons on the show, he dates a few different women, and even finds himself in a few committed relationships. However, he never achieves his desire (which is building a life with a female and eventually having kids) until season 7 when he finally is reunited with Holly, a woman he’s loved for a long time… and unlike almost every other woman in the world, Holly loves Michael too.
Like myself, Michael is a creative type personality. He is absolutely not happy unless he is working on something artistic, whether it be a movie, a book, or a comedy routine. Michael is overflowing with creative energy, so much so that it effects his work, and effects his relationships, because his over-the-top personality scares people off… probably because they are either annoyed by him or don’t understand him. I personally can relate to all these things, as can many other creative type people.
This should help you understand his approach to women. When courting a female, Michael is constantly cracking jokes that are not funny, and doing spontaneous, crazy things in hopes to impress the woman he is out with. Deep inside, he’s desperate, and often lets it show through his words and actions. He lets his over-the-top personality come out on dates, and therefore he usually ends up saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, all the time.
The Michael Scott approach does not work.
Here’s why:
No woman is attracted to a man who makes a fool out of himself. It’s simply not attractive. In addition to this, if you let your mouth run and say everything that comes to your mind, you risk offending the female you’re with or exposing your idiotic nature.
Also, females are completely turned off by desperation. A man who exudes the fact that he is desperate for a relationship is not appealing to them… most likely because they don’t think he has any strength to offer, or they think that he would be extremely clingy.
I have learned the hard way that having an over-the-top personality, like you see in the “Date Mike” video, just doesn’t work. If you’re hyperactive like me and like Michael Scott, you need to tone it down a bit. Don’t follow the impulse that compels you to be “different” or “unique”, because females can detect your lack of authenticity right away.
Jim Halpert
Character Jim Halpert is extremely laid back, and at times, even to a fault. He is mostly lazy with his work (observe the solitaire game on his computer screen), and is constantly in a state of relaxation, which nearly keeps him from putting forth any ambition. While I cannot relate to this personality type, I really admire it… I wish I could be that relaxed all the time… but I’m simply not wired that way.
On a personal level, Jim is a bit closed off. He is very slow to reveal his emotions (as is made obvious when he waits until the end of season two to confess his feelings to Pam, whom he has loved for a number of years). He is also slow to reveal what’s on his mind, and keeps most of his conversation focused on matters at hand.
Jim, mentally, is super sharp, though. He can see right through Michael Scott and people like him, but deep inside is a kind person and would never intentionally hurt anyone’s feelings. Jim has limitless potential with his career because of his smarts, but for some reason, he chooses to take a relaxed approach to his career.
Jim’s approach to women is equivalent with his personality: relaxed. He has a great amount of confidence, and is unafraid to approach a female and speak with her. However, because of his relaxed nature, females often assume that he is nothing more than a friend.
Unlike his approach toward his job, Jim is actually very passionate when it comes to the one he loves (in this case, Pam Beasley). You have to really study him to know that he is actually somewhat sentimental, and sometimes lets his emotions get the better of him, though he is extremely cautious to reveal his emotions.
The Jim Halpert approach works.
Why?
Women respond to sincerity. Women respond to authenticity. Women respond to sentiment. These are all good things to exude in a relationship.
Though Jim’s approach to women is not flawless, it’s pretty dang good. Girls like a guy who’s funny, and he’s a funny guy… but even more so, girls like a guy who has no pretense… a guy who can just be himself. And Jim Halpert never ceases to relax and be himself.
He doesn’t come on strong like Michael Scott or Tony Stark. You have to be rich, famous, or extremely good looking to make coming on strong work. But Jim doesn’t subscribe to it. He’s relaxed, authentic, and passionate. And it works.
Are my observations correct?
Yes, because I’ve seen them at play in my own life and in the lives of others. I have been on both ends of the spectrum: the Michael Scott end and the Jim Halpert end. And I have found that when I finally let go and stop focusing on myself, that’s when I find success.
When you are desperate and make it obvious by the way you act, you’re gonna run out of luck real fast. You need to take a step back and ask yourself what qualities you would like in the opposite sex, and then try to work on having those qualities yourself. Never overdo your personality approach. Though you probably have a great personality, it you bring it to a girl’s attention too soon, you’ll scare her off. Make your approach relaxed.
My purpose in this blog entry was to help struggling guys out by explaining this theory in a relatable way.
Something I haven’t said for a long time, but finally feel like talking about.
I heard this line in a song called “Free Falling” yesterday…
“All the vampires walkin’ through the valley Move west down Ventura Blvd And all the bad boys are standing in the shadows All the good girls are home with broken hearts”
I respect what the writer is trying to say, to an extent. However, this is the question I pose to Mr. Petty… what about all the good guys that are home with broken hearts??
I don’t like these lyrics because they cast an image of most guys being like raging vampires… using girls and then hurting them. Are there guys like that out there? - yes, absolutely. But not all of us are like that. And another important thing is to realize that sometimes the girls are the ones breaking the hearts; every human has done something that has been emotionally hurtful to another human at some point in time.
I am not bashing or slamming females in any way. I respect females. I’m just saying that I think society paints this picture of most guys being heartbreakers, leaving girls hurt and distrusting. And while I know that does happen, the problem I have is that society makes absolutely no mention of the rest of us guys - the ones that are not out to hurt girls… we are the ones who seek to treat them with respect and take care of them. Society does not acknowledge our existence on this planet, whatsoever.
I wonder if maybe most girls are only attracted to the bad guys, which is why they end up with broken hearts. Maybe there’s some sort of quality the bad guys have that us good guys can’t measure up to, leaving us alone and heartbroken by the girls who want the bad guys. And of course, society refuses to acknowledge all the decent guys who stay home on a Friday night sad because some girl ditched them.
I repeat that I am not in any way bashing the female population. All I know is that I am a 24-year-old, attractive guy with a good job, and I have been seriously hurt by more than one female in the past year and a half (in spite of how well I treated them), and am constantly getting turned down and rejected by females… for some reason unknown to me. And I have a few close friends who also fit this same description, and they are extremely decent guys.
So the bad guys are out hurting the girls, and the good girls are staying home in their sadness. Meanwhile, those same girls hurt the good guys, and no one on earth has any idea why. Tom Petty, write a song about that.
Such a powerful song. These words give me chills. I can’t think of a song that better speaks to me about where I am in life right now. A lot of changes are taking place… but everything is for the better. I am living in Tennessee again. I’m on the road singing again. Things are really looking up. Today I’m a little sick. May have caught a stomach bug. But I cling to what the first verse of this song says… “my strongest trials now are past, my triumph has begun”. And in times of worry or times of doubt, I cling to the lyrics in the fourth verse (which I made bold) that say “Oh, bear my longing heart to Him, who bled and died for me; whose blood now cleanses from all sin, and gives me victory.” I am finally starting to find victory in my life. It has been a long road to get here, and I have made a ton of mistakes. I am not completely the person I need to be yet, but for once, I can say that I think I’m finally heading in the right direction. Seek God’s will in your life. It’s the onlypath to peace.
If you like the song lyrics I posted check out an older Gaither Vocal Band album called “Homecoming”. It has a lot of cool guest appearances on it and some really sweet songs. I’ve been enjoying it a lot lately.
Thanks for reading and for your support. May God bless you all.
By the way, here’s a peak at what is to come…. click here.
Screams. The inside can scream things at us. We can tell it to be quiet and leave us alone, but that doesn’t change the fact that worries try to plague our minds, especially when we are the most vulnerable.
But this is not the voice we should be listening to. The voice of condemnation always doubts, always terrifies, and always stresses.
But there is another voice, the one that you feel in the pit of your heart. The Voice of Truth.
Like many Americans in today’s world, I hear many voices calling out to me. You’re not alone in the struggle. We all deal with it at some time or another. In these times, I want to learn to listen to the Voice of Truth.
“But of all the voices calling out to me, I will choose to listen to and believe the Voice of Truth”… the voice of Jesus Christ is what these Casting Crowns lyrics speak of. This voice assures us that we are His own.
Check out this song. I hope that it will mean to you what it means to me.
This song calls out to me at a time when I don’t know how to feel, and reminds me of a truth that is available to us all, even when we are confused, hurt, or afraid. My friends, I challenge you to listen to the Voice of Truth today.
“The Voice of Truth”
By: Casting Crowns
Oh,what I would do to have the kind of faith it takes To climb out of this boat I’m in Onto the crashing waves To step out of my comfort zone Into the realm of the unknown Where Jesus is, And he’s holding out his hand
But the waves are calling out my name and they laugh at me Reminding me of all the times I’ve tried before and failed The waves they keep on telling me time and time again “Boy, you’ll never win, You’ll never win.”
But the Voice of truth tells me a different story the Voice of truth says “do not be afraid!” and the Voice of truth says “this is for My glory” Out of all the voices calling out to me I will choose to listen and believe the Voice of truth
Oh, what I would do to have the kind of strength it takes To stand before a giant with just a sling and a stone Surrounded by the sound of a thousand warriors shaking in their armor Wishing they’d have had the strength to stand
But the giant’s calling out my name and he laughs at me Reminding me of all the times I’ve tried before and failed The giant keeps on telling me time and time again “Boy you’ll never win, you’ll never win.”
But the voice of truth tells me a different story the Voice of truth says “do not be afraid!” and the Voice of truth says “this is for My glory” Out of all the voices calling out to me I will choose to listen and believe the Voice of truth
But the stone was just the right size to put the giant on the ground and the waves they don’t seem so high from on top of them looking down I will soar with the wings of eagles when I stop and listen to the sound of Jesus singing over me
But the Voice of truth tells me a different story The Voice of truth says “do not be afraid!” And the Voice of truth says “this is for my glory” Out of all the voices calling out to me (calling out to me) I will choose to listen and believe (I will choose to listen and believe) I will choose to listen and believe the Voice of truth
I will listen and believe I will listen and believe the Voice of truth I will listen and believe ‘Cause Jesus you are the Voice of truth